Comments for advancedetiquette http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog Syndi Seid's Advanced Etiquette Tips Tue, 31 Jan 2012 19:08:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by Dustin http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9821 Dustin Tue, 31 Jan 2012 19:08:41 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9821 @Zeus: Well im glad your so proud of yourself and your sons but you didn't answer my question. @Zeus: Well im glad your so proud of yourself and your sons but you didn’t answer my question.

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by zeus fiction http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9817 zeus fiction Tue, 31 Jan 2012 07:40:50 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9817 @ Dustin. Ok. YOU wear your hat inside. My sons won't. @ Dustin.
Ok. YOU wear your hat inside. My sons won’t.

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by Dustin http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9799 Dustin Sun, 29 Jan 2012 14:16:45 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9799 Why is it a sign of respect ? And to who? Your comment makes it out like it's only to respect women. Opening a car door has nothing to do with wearing a hat. If you told me spinning in 3 circles and tapping my head was a age-old tradition that Shows respect I wouldn't do that either. That's exactly how ridiculous taking off an article of clothing sounds to me. Why is it a sign of respect ? And to who? Your comment makes it out like it’s only to respect women. Opening a car door has nothing to do with wearing a hat. If you told me spinning in 3 circles and tapping my head was a age-old tradition that Shows respect I wouldn’t do that either. That’s exactly how ridiculous taking off an article of clothing sounds to me.

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by zeus fiction http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9797 zeus fiction Sun, 29 Jan 2012 10:10:49 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9797 Why not stop holding car doors open for women? Or when approaching a door, not allow a woman to proceed before you after holding it open? All a sign of respect. Years ago, I thought I'd test out wearing my cap in a restaurant. My wife asked me to take it off, I said I want to wear it, knowing I've never done it before. Sure enough, the maitre'd comes over and politely requests I take it off. Sheepish me, for knowing better, and having my wife say I told you so. The same one (in my above thread) who didn't back me when reproaching our son. Why not stop holding car doors open for women? Or when approaching a door, not allow a woman to proceed before you after holding it open? All a sign of respect. Years ago, I thought I’d test out wearing my cap in a restaurant.
My wife asked me to take it off, I said I want to wear it, knowing I’ve never done it before. Sure enough, the maitre’d comes over and politely requests I take it off. Sheepish me, for knowing better, and having my wife say I told you so. The same one (in my above thread) who didn’t back me when reproaching our son.

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by Dustin http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9780 Dustin Fri, 27 Jan 2012 07:48:29 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9780 Grants question is exactly what I'm talking about. Why should anyone find a hat as a sign of disrespect ? It's a dated tradition. At least taking your shoes off keeps the carpet clean. I can understand why Asian cultures do that. Here is an article talking about it. http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2011/03/why-we-are-supposed-to-take-our-hats-off-for-the-national-anthem Grants question is exactly what I’m talking about. Why should anyone find a hat as a sign of disrespect ? It’s a dated tradition. At least taking your shoes off keeps the carpet clean. I can understand why Asian cultures do that. Here is an article talking about it. http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2011/03/why-we-are-supposed-to-take-our-hats-off-for-the-national-anthem

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by Please Respect ....Respect http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9778 Please Respect ....Respect Thu, 26 Jan 2012 21:34:16 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9778 Granted we live in different times, but respect remains constant. To this end, I find it VERY rude when a man or a young male does NOT take of his hat while in my presence or in a church. You have to teach our young men what respect entails. It's daunting how disrespectful some men and young men can be. What's worse is the fact that we are allowing our women to accept disrespect as a sense of normalcy. I'm a social worker, a mother, a wife and a daughter. I believe in respecting myself, my husband, my children, my parents and you! My son knows to take off his hat, he knows to open the door for a woman, he knows how to pull out the chair for a woman, he knows how to put on and take off a woman's coat. He knows to help his 84 year old Grandmother. This all comes from my Grandparents!!! The world is very diverse. We should all know what cultural diversity entails. Granted we live in different times, but respect remains constant. To this end, I find it VERY rude when a man or a young male does NOT take of his hat while in my presence or in a church. You have to teach our young men what respect entails. It’s daunting how disrespectful some men and young men can be. What’s worse is the fact that we are allowing our women to accept disrespect as a sense of normalcy. I’m a social worker, a mother, a wife and a daughter. I believe in respecting myself, my husband, my children, my parents and you! My son knows to take off his hat, he knows to open the door for a woman, he knows how to pull out the chair for a woman, he knows how to put on and take off a woman’s coat. He knows to help his 84 year old Grandmother. This all comes from my Grandparents!!! The world is very diverse. We should all know what cultural diversity entails.

]]> Comment on 10 Tips on Chinese Table Manners by Sylvia Montgomery http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/cultural-awareness/10-tips-on-chinese-table-manners/comment-page-1/#comment-9704 Sylvia Montgomery Fri, 20 Jan 2012 06:04:34 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=1369#comment-9704 Hello Syndi, Great information. Thank you for sharing. Take care, Sylvia Montgomery Hello Syndi,

Great information. Thank you for sharing.

Take care,

Sylvia Montgomery

]]> Comment on 8 Gift-Giving Etiquette Questions by Tangering http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/8-gift-giving-etiquette-questions/comment-page-1/#comment-9695 Tangering Thu, 19 Jan 2012 10:12:14 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=662#comment-9695 Hi Syndi, when I mentioned the box of candy analogy, Mom just got huffy. I think she has a problem with gift giving in general. She doesn't care about her own birthday much and probably doesn't think that anyone else should either. I have not spoken to her since before Christmas. When I asked her very nicely and gently to not send used books as gifts, she then sent me a nasty email and said that I lied about the book with the broken spine and newspaper clipping. I think this issue is less about etiquette and more about psychology. I am the youngest of three. My two siblings do little for Mom and get away with it, whereas the expectations of me are greater. Like I said - I now realise that this is a job for a shrink! However, would be grateful for sound advice. Many thanks. Hi Syndi, when I mentioned the box of candy analogy, Mom just got huffy. I think she has a problem with gift giving in general. She doesn’t care about her own birthday much and probably doesn’t think that anyone else should either. I have not spoken to her since before Christmas. When I asked her very nicely and gently to not send used books as gifts, she then sent me a nasty email and said that I lied about the book with the broken spine and newspaper clipping. I think this issue is less about etiquette and more about psychology. I am the youngest of three. My two siblings do little for Mom and get away with it, whereas the expectations of me are greater. Like I said – I now realise that this is a job for a shrink! However, would be grateful for sound advice. Many thanks.

]]> Comment on The Etiquette of Wearing a Hat by zeus fiction http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/hat-etiquette/comment-page-2/#comment-9694 zeus fiction Thu, 19 Jan 2012 05:28:21 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=107#comment-9694 I found this site after telling my 15 yo about taking his hat off. He'd gone to a New Years party. When I saw him the next day, I inquired as to whether he takes his hat off when he enters someone's home. He said sometimes. I explained it's gentlemenly behavior to take one's hat off. My wife would take me to task for not always holding a car door open for her (perhaps another thread), yet, she didn't back me when requiring him to remove his hat. Since we're no longer together, perhaps this is why she doesn't feel compelled to be in agreement. I found this site after telling my 15 yo about taking his hat off. He’d gone to a New Years party. When I saw him the next day, I inquired as to whether he takes his hat off when he enters someone’s home.

He said sometimes. I explained it’s gentlemenly behavior to take one’s hat off.
My wife would take me to task for not always holding a car door open for her (perhaps another thread), yet, she didn’t back me when requiring him to remove his hat.

Since we’re no longer together, perhaps this is why she doesn’t feel compelled to be in agreement.

]]> Comment on Saying “No Problem” is Not Proper Etiquette by Alice http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/life/no-problem-is-not-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-9670 Alice Tue, 17 Jan 2012 22:19:16 +0000 http://www.advancedetiquette.com/blog/?p=1107#comment-9670 AISHA, You are so right! . I consider "No Problem" perfectly acceptable and kind – (depending on the tone of voice just as any other comment -including "You're Welcome") It says to the asker that their request was NOT in any way a problem for the doer – and gives the ASKER a feeling that they have not been a burden (as some VERY kind people actually LIKE to be reassured that they have NOT been a problem) I come across these types of insecure people ALL THE TIME being in customer service. (especially sweet little ole ladies :)) I can tell that they MUCH appreciate that I have reassured them that what they have asked IS NOT A PROBLEM FOR ME TO DO IT FOR THEM!!!! It is ALL in the your tone of voice and manner. ON the Other Hand, I come across those “types” of ASKERS that certainly are a PROBLEM and they only exist in this life to complain and make PROBLEMS because they are innately RUDE and difficult people – therefore they will NEVER hear the words “NO PROBLEM” from me as they CERTAINLY are a problem and they were not POLITE or kind. The people that HAVE a problem with this comment probably ARE THOSE TYPE OF ASKERS - the "to do" over this perfectly innocent comment is proof. LOL! To them I say: You're Welcome - a cold, albeit polite, response. (If I give someone a gift and I get a Thank You - a You're Welcome works. If I do a service for someone and get a Thank You - then a No Problem is VERY appropriate!) No one is going to change my mind on that - I am 60 yrs of age and I do not believe it is a BAD HABIT! It is a reassuring response to the people that I serve and that is how it is conveyed to them. It has never invoked a negative response. I just happened across this "uptight" web site & it really irks me that there are such "judgemental" polite police that have no idea what they are talking about. I put the German in to proove that it is a world wide phrase and that it is perfectly common, MODERN terminology - It is not rude - NOT insulting. Get over it! AISHA, You are so right! . I consider “No Problem” perfectly acceptable and kind – (depending on the tone of voice just as any other comment -including “You’re Welcome”)

It says to the asker that their request was NOT in any way a problem for the doer – and gives the ASKER a feeling that they have not been a burden (as some VERY kind people actually LIKE to be reassured that they have NOT been a problem) I come across these types of insecure people ALL THE TIME being in customer service. (especially sweet little ole ladies :) )

I can tell that they MUCH appreciate that I have reassured them that what they have asked IS NOT A PROBLEM FOR ME TO DO IT FOR THEM!!!! It is ALL in the your tone of voice and manner.

ON the Other Hand, I come across those “types” of ASKERS that certainly are a PROBLEM and they only exist in this life to complain and make PROBLEMS because they are innately RUDE and difficult people – therefore they will NEVER hear the words “NO PROBLEM” from me as they CERTAINLY are a problem and they were not POLITE or kind.

The people that HAVE a problem with this comment probably ARE THOSE TYPE OF ASKERS – the “to do” over this perfectly innocent comment is proof. LOL! To them I say: You’re Welcome – a cold, albeit polite, response. (If I give someone a gift and I get a Thank You – a You’re Welcome works. If I do a service for someone and get a Thank You – then a No Problem is VERY appropriate!)

No one is going to change my mind on that – I am 60 yrs of age and I do not believe it is a BAD HABIT! It is a reassuring response to the people that I serve and that is how it is conveyed to them. It has never invoked a negative response. I just happened across this “uptight” web site & it really irks me that there are such “judgemental” polite police that have no idea what they are talking about. I put the German in to proove that it is a world wide phrase and that it is perfectly common, MODERN terminology – It is not rude – NOT insulting. Get over it!

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