December is often the party
month of the year, when invitations range from holiday
celebrations among friends to the obligatory office party. To
be the perfect guest, first be sure to make a distinction
between a hosted and no-host event. A no-host party is
sometimes given by an organization or association, where you
may be expected to contribute to the proceedings of the event.
A hosted party is one presented by an individual or firm in a
private home, office, or event space where you will not be
required to contribute anything to attend and while attending.
Use these simple guidelines to be an exceptional guest at a
hosted party. and find yourself being invited again next
Always arrive on time. The
reasonable arrival time for a party in a private home is
within 8 minutes of the appointed time. If the invitation
says 6:00 p.m., arrive between 6:00 and 6:08. Arrival time
is less strict when the invitation clearly states the event
is an "open house" within a range of times. In this case, it
is best to arrive no later than within an hour of the ending
- Have the telephone number with you.
In case of an emergency delay, call your host to explain
where you are and when you think you will arrive. This is
vital in the case of formal dinner parties and polite for
other events as well.
- Say hello and good-bye. Upon
arriving at a party, be sure to locate the host to extend
your greetings and appreciation for being invited. Then find
the host again before leaving to say good-bye and to
acknowledge the wonderful party.
- Bring a house gift. It is always a
nice gesture to present a small gift of appreciation to the
host of a party in a private home. However, do not ask the
host to open your gift in front of you or expect it to be
used at the event. Let the host set it aside for a more
appropriate time. It is not necessary to bring a gift to a
hosted party held at the office or event
- Sing for your supper. One contribution
you should make at a hosted party is to participate. Help
make the event a success by introducing yourself to others
and engaging in conversation. Be prepared to join in
whatever good-natured festivities your host has planned ...
- Eat and drink responsibly. Avoid
arriving at a party hungry, stimulated to eat and drink
everything in sight! If you find you have consumed too much
alcohol, ask your host to call a taxi or find someone who
can drive you home or to a nearby hotel. With good friends,
a night in the guestroom may be an option: Drinking and
driving is never an option.
- Never overstay your welcome. Plan to make
your exit around the ending time stated on the invitation,
or about an hour after the dinner is concluded. Stay longer
only if you are sure the host is genuinely encouraging an
extension. It is often merely a gracious gesture when your
host enthuses, "Oh, don't leave. Do stay
- Write a thank you note. As the final
touch to showing your appreciation, and ensuring you get
invited back, hand write a thank-you note as soon as
possible following the event. A thank-you telephone call or
e-mail are appropriate only among close personal
Unless your host specifically requests your assistance with
something, do NOT feel compelled to help in the kitchen at
parties. Leave all arrangements to your host. Your task is to
enjoy the event. Reciprocate by hosting an event in your home
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