All invitations should contain:
you plan to extend the invitation in writing
or orally, be sure to include all pertinent information.
If inviting over the telephone, jot down your
facts and read it so you’ll be sure to
||The hosts of the party
John and Mary Jones
request the pleasure of your company
||Purpose of party
at a Holiday Dinner Party
||Both the day and date are helpful
on Friday, December 12, 2003
||Start and ending times
7:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m.
||Specific site of the event
123 Terrific Lane
||Any special information that will make
your guests comfortable
Informal Evening Attire
||How and by what date to respond and to
Your kind response is appreciated
by Monday, December 1
to Jane Smith
415-123-4567 or Jane@whatever.com
phrases such as Regrets Only or Acceptances Only.
Despite your best intentions, these phrases rarely
work as desired. Guests should know they must
respond to all personal invitations (See
Etiquette Tip of the Month on the RSVP).
it is tempting to utilize ever-increasing technology
and use database-generated labels on social and
business invitations, you should avoid this practice
at all cost! Write invitations by hand or give
the appearance of having each envelope personally
handwritten or nicely typewritten through your
etiquette for formal invitations states that
each word be spelled out completely on your
invitations, including Street, Apartment,
and state name.
mindful of using the proper honorific when
sending invitations and addressing the envelope.
Honorific and proper titles can be abbreviated,
such as Mr., Ms., Mrs., and Dr. For doctors,
use M.D. or Ph.D. on the envelope and Dr.
in the salutation, never both.
addressing an envelope to a couple with one
person having a higher rank and status than
the other, the higher ranking person—regardless
of age or gender—takes precedence over
the other person. For example, Senator Dianne
Feinstein would go on the top line above
her husband, Mr. Richard Blum.
with the same last name can be addressed
together as Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Jefferson.
Couples with different last names may be
listed on one line as Mr. Ron Hildebrand
and Ms. Syndi Seid or on two separate lines
as Ms. Syndi Seid (next line) Mr. Ron Hildebrand.
Unmarried couples are listed on two separate
lines. If you are not sure of marital status,
list the names on separate lines.
an invitation indicates a guest is included,
only the person listed on the invitation is to
attend ... Hint, hint: uninvited guests are NOT
to attend. As the host, if you welcome a single
friend or family member bringing a guest, and
do not know that person’s name, add “and
Guest” so the primary invited person will
know they may extend the invitation on your behalf.
sending a formal invitation with both an
outer and inner envelope, address the outer
envelope to the primary invited person at
that address only, with the inner envelope
stating, "Mr. John Jones and Guest".
an informal party, address the outer envelope
to include the invited person only. Add a
handwritten note to the invitation extending
the invitation to a guest. Just as guests
should never assume they may bring an uninvited
guest, the host should never assume the primary
invited person will know they are welcome
to bring a guest, unless the invitation is
hope this helps address the basics on party
invitations. If you have further specific
questions, email me at Info@advancedetiquette.com.
I’d enjoy hearing from you.