I care about politics, yet I choose not to argue about it!

As midterm elections approach, here in the U.S., I’ve asked myself why I haven’t been more active in political conversations. Am I a wuss for not expounding on my opinions and convictions as a voting citizen? Why don't I share more about the candidates and issues I believe in and want to win?  No matter where you live in the world, I'm sure there are others who feel the same way as I do.  

Thanks to my friend Francis, who helped me realize eight reasons I try not to argue, beyond my hatred of arguments of any kind, especially political ones that lead nowhere. Perhaps these items will help you cope, as they have for me.

1. I don’t have to turn every disagreement into a contest. Choosing not to argue reflects self-control and respect for others, both of which matter to me.
2. Heated exchanges rarely change minds. Trying to make a point in a heated conversation often leaves everyone feeling unheard.
3. I have strong opinions and serious views, even if I don’t feel compelled to express them. I don’t need to speak up simply because all my friends and others around me do.
4. Being a middle-of-the-road person, and labeled a political centrist, doesn’t mean I assume that both sides are equally right, nor that the best answer is always halfway between them. It means considering issues carefully and respectfully.
5. I try to stay speak up when something important is at stake. I don’t need to debate every political ad or dinner-table provocation.
6. Voting is the most meaningful way I know to be a good citizen and steward of our country. I support the issues I believe in and help where I can, without becoming combative.
7. I continue to practice how to respond to those who think I am a non-committal person. I respond with: “The things I care most about are…” “I’m still learning about this issue, so tell me what you know,” and “Right now, I see it differently. I don’t want to discuss it until I know more.”
8. Most of all, I will not match the volume around me. Heated discussions and politics often feel tied to people’s identity, morality, safety and sense of belonging.  Anger attracts attention, and media often rewards conflict. This partially explains the intensity we see everywhere, yet I’m not going let it take hold in me. 

I want to be a thoughtful, engaged citizen, without being a constant debater. My quietness is not a verdict on the value of my voice. It is a choice about how—and when—I want to use it.

Not arguing is good etiquette. It's an approach to maintaining what truly matters above all else... your love and friendship with your family members, friends, co-workers, and others.

P.S.  There is numerous media coverage on the topic of being a congenial political conversationalist… Here’s one article released back in 2024, when the U.S. faced similar challenges, and still ongoing…

Click here for 5 Ways to Manage Politically Induced Stress, 
[Also at: https://www.michiganmedicine.org/health-lab/5-ways-manage-politically-induced-stress]

Happy Practicing!